Do you ever just want to smack yourself and yell “You KNOW BETTER!” really loud? Today I wanted to. I spent money unplanned two days in a row. Yesterday we waited too long to make supper and went out to Harvey’s for burgers. Then today Boy#1 had a tough day, he was emotional and very sad. He was begging for sushi, I said no because it costs way too much, that’s something to plan for. Then I suggested I could pick up tempura shrimp from the grocery store as a compromise. I had planned to go over to grab a few things I wanted to add to salads this week. I went into that grocery store hungry. BAD IDEA!!! I spent much more than planned, on FROZEN Chinese food. I also made fractured last minute meal plan ideas and bought too much. Poop. No more grocery shopping in between grocery shops on an empty stomach! Fail. Fell off the train. On the plus side, I did restrain myself three times from grabbing a coffee form Tim Horton’s. Hanging on with my fingernails.
I did spend money on my hair today, but that was planned. I want to get all set for our weekend away, and this will double for Christmas since I plan my appointments eight weeks apart. I’m writing my list, we have the money set aside for spending on dinner and meals, and I am writing down a list of the things my mother needs for the boys. I feel this is coming together. Reading the schedule for the seminars this weekend has just made me even more excited.
This weekend Hubs and I are taking time out for us. Putting our marriage first on our to do list. I have been honest before about us seeking out help and being close to divorce in the past, we have had a lot of support in getting to where we are. We want to get better. I’ve been listening to quite a few family oriented, Christian podcasts of late. One of my favourites is Family Life Today. I heard it on the radio a few times a while ago and never really connected to it because I get all feministy about older white men telling us what to do in the Christian church and in our families. I recently found it on my podcast search and gave it another chance. This program seemed to be aimed right at my heart the first time I tuned in. These “old white guys” weren’t pushing an old agenda, they weren’t spouting legalistic doctrine about women submitting to their husbands in all things and men ruling with iron fists. They were focusing on marriage and God’s plan for it, as well as ways to strengthen and grow our marriages, in more positive, equal, and modern terms. They were however using this series to promote their “Weekend To Remember Marriage Getaway”. At first my cynical, bitter at the church and people who use religion to make money, inner self got all haughty and I went “pfft, way to ruin your message trying to sell me a seminar!” Then I got curious. Or suckered in, you pick. I went to find out if they had these getaways in Canada. They do. I found the info here: https://www.familylifecanada.com/ . I went to talk to my mom about it, and about keeping Boy#1 and #2 for part of the weekend since it was also supposed to be my dad’s family Christmas. She was very supportive and agreed to help us out. I posted about the weekend on FB to see if we could get a group together to make admission cheaper. There was a lot of interest but not much time to get everyone organized. Hubs and I decided to go ahead with it anyway and take a leap of faith, making this our Christmas present. As soon as we did that, support came pouring in from friends and family. God basically used them to provide our registration fee and part of our hotel room, all in one week! We are so blessed by our friends and family and their love for God and us.
I am really looking forward to this time just for us. We are so blessed to have such support from our parents, our friends and our family. I can’t wait to tell you all we learn. This retreat is hosted at Blue Mountain Inn in Colingwood Ontario. A beautiful town in a scenic area with so many fun things to do. I recently was there for a spa day trip with my brother and friends, we ate at an amazing brewpub and eatery called Northwinds, I hope we can stop in there for a pint and maybe a growler. Their food is to die for. There’s a beautiful coffee place I want to go to, the Scandinave Spa to enjoy, places to hike and shop, so much to do. What I’m really looking forward to is a break with Hubs. Time set aside for our marriage, for just us. No work, no kids, no distractions, just us. That is what I’m the most excited for.
And with that my brain is out of words and energy to find them. Wish me luck for tomorrow and not spending ridiculous amounts of money on food!
I’m off to my cozy bed now. I am exhausted.